Relationship experts: turn blue check marks on WhatsApp

The blue ticks on WhatsApp on Facebook Messenger that show when you last been online can be deadly for your relationship.

That's what pschologe and relationship expert Madeleine Mason tells The Independent who explains that messages that are not answered immediately can cause a lot of confusion. 'It can- wrongly- give you the feeling that you are being rejected, while the other person may be busy. In company, at work, in the car. '

The ticks create an expectation according to the relationship expert that you have to answer quickly. However, there are no rules that say that this really should.

The frustration can become even greater if you notice that the person in question does answer other messages or puts something on Facebook or Instagram. According to dating coach James Preece, this kind of read receipts cause relationship problems because they cause misunderstandings.

'Someone immediately makes the interpretation that not answer means that the other person has something to hide or does not like you. You can not understand why answers are not a priority, while the other person may think completely differently, 'says Mason.

These frustrations are very different per person. Someone with a low self-esteem who gets little confirmation in a relationship or is very emotional, will be hit faster if messages are not answered immediately.

Relationship experts recommend that the ticks and reading cards should be switched off when in doubt. That prevents a lot of hassle.

With WhatsApp you do that through Settings \u0026 amp; gt; Account \u0026 gt; Privacy to go. Then check the box with 'Reading Certificates'.

On the Facebook website you can find how you can disable Facebook Messenger alerts.